Venting and reinforcing

How a leader remains neutral! What I have learnt, as a human being over the past three-ish decades, is there is a time to be positive and look for lessons and there is a time to vent, let everything out and simply allow yourself to wallow in self-pity. As a leader it?s really important to recognise the benefits for both …

How do you say ?no??

Confidence is all in the delivery! I?ve been pondering why some leaders come across as really confident and others come across as hesitant and uncertain. And I feel like I?ve gained some clarity that is worth sharing. Yesterday morning, as I was driving to my first client meeting, I realised I?d forgotten my shoes. Like many women who forsake comfort …

Our focus on impossibility

And all the reasons it won?t work! Why are so many people focused on impossibility? Why things won?t work. We talk about these amazing ideas and dreams then counter it with a myriad of reasons why it won?t work, why we shouldn?t do it and why we should just be grateful for what we have. It?s one of the many …

Making sense of change

If it aint broke, don?t fix it! As a natural default most of us opt for doing what?s easiest right now (also known as taking the path of least resistance) rather than doing what?s best long term. We prefer to do things the way they?ve always been done…so we?re not having to switch our brains on. And why not! If …

Taming the distraction llama

To get things done! How many times a day do you find yourself being distracted from what you?re doing? I was distracted twice just typing this first sentence. In his book, Hyperfocus, Chris Bailey talks about how long we can maintain focus when sitting in front of a computer – just 40 seconds. Doesn?t sound right does it! But when …

Treat others the way THEY want to be treated?

Not how you want to be treated! As a kid I remember being told to ?treat others the way you want to be treated?. I would hear ?Shelley, you wouldn?t like it if someone did that to you so don?t do it to them ok?. Sure, that?s great advice, in the context of the playground…but as adults I?ve become really …

Happiness is part of the journey

It?s not the destination! When you?re having one on one conversations with your staff and talking about their goals for the future, do you sometimes hear them say things like ?I want to be happy? – like it?s some amazing destination that isn?t accessible all the time? If so, how do you respond? Do you delve into a discussion about …

Make small talk meaningful!

Be consistent & do it often In my last written blog I talked about how I came to like people and I feel like this is a natural follow on from that. Leaders who are task focused often see small talk as annoying and a waste of time. And it is, if you?re looking for instant results. The benefits of …

The fluff that matters!

Building relationships, running staff engagement and team culture activities and even development conversations are often referred to as fluff! In 2018? Really, that can?t be! Yep it actually is. I?ve heard it used by several leaders over the past few months. Leaders who were in different states, different organisations and different industries?so yep, it?s still happening. If I?d just heard …

You are capable of so much more!

Over the weekend I became a Master NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, which is a huge accomplishment and something I’m so very proud of. Over six months the program forced me to ?challenge myself in new ways and do things I wouldn’t?ordinarily do or didn’t think I was capable of. One of the biggest mental challenges was believing I could …