Venting and reinforcing

How a leader remains neutral! What I have learnt, as a human being over the past three-ish decades, is there is a time to be positive and look for lessons and there is a time to vent, let everything out and simply allow yourself to wallow in self-pity. As a leader it?s really important to recognise the benefits for both …

How do you say ?no??

Confidence is all in the delivery! I?ve been pondering why some leaders come across as really confident and others come across as hesitant and uncertain. And I feel like I?ve gained some clarity that is worth sharing. Yesterday morning, as I was driving to my first client meeting, I realised I?d forgotten my shoes. Like many women who forsake comfort …

Our focus on impossibility

And all the reasons it won?t work! Why are so many people focused on impossibility? Why things won?t work. We talk about these amazing ideas and dreams then counter it with a myriad of reasons why it won?t work, why we shouldn?t do it and why we should just be grateful for what we have. It?s one of the many …

Making sense of change

If it aint broke, don?t fix it! As a natural default most of us opt for doing what?s easiest right now (also known as taking the path of least resistance) rather than doing what?s best long term. We prefer to do things the way they?ve always been done…so we?re not having to switch our brains on. And why not! If …

Treat others the way THEY want to be treated?

Not how you want to be treated! As a kid I remember being told to ?treat others the way you want to be treated?. I would hear ?Shelley, you wouldn?t like it if someone did that to you so don?t do it to them ok?. Sure, that?s great advice, in the context of the playground…but as adults I?ve become really …

Make small talk meaningful!

Be consistent & do it often In my last written blog I talked about how I came to like people and I feel like this is a natural follow on from that. Leaders who are task focused often see small talk as annoying and a waste of time. And it is, if you?re looking for instant results. The benefits of …

The fluff that matters!

Building relationships, running staff engagement and team culture activities and even development conversations are often referred to as fluff! In 2018? Really, that can?t be! Yep it actually is. I?ve heard it used by several leaders over the past few months. Leaders who were in different states, different organisations and different industries?so yep, it?s still happening. If I?d just heard …

Sound advice for new leaders

Reflections from Mali ? Coaching people to be better leaders gives me such a buzz. Seeing them transform in their thinking and their approach is so rewarding and I love how life changing it can be. I was chatting with one of my clients, Malith Amarasekera, recently and I had a ?proud? moment. We reflected on where he was when …

Operating rhythm

The silver bullet for business success Ok, so I have this love/hate relationship with routine. For years I?ve been bouncing between having a routine and being spontaneous. I discover a way to do a task efficiently and follow the process for a couple of months before getting irritated by the lack of variety and changing it up, delaying it, or, …

Leader engagement

Hear how Spiz engages his people! ? Often the engagement of leaders is overlooked. We assume that because they?re in a leadership position they should be able to look after themselves. And while it is important for leaders to own and direct their own development it is still the responsibility of their managers to ensure they remain engaged. And if …