Venting and reinforcing

How a leader remains neutral! What I have learnt, as a human being over the past three-ish decades, is there is a time to be positive and look for lessons and there is a time to vent, let everything out and simply allow yourself to wallow in self-pity. As a leader it’s really important to recognise the benefits for both …

How do you say “no”?

Confidence is all in the delivery! I’ve been pondering why some leaders come across as really confident and others come across as hesitant and uncertain. And I feel like I’ve gained some clarity that is worth sharing. Yesterday morning, as I was driving to my first client meeting, I realised I’d forgotten my shoes. Like many women who forsake comfort …

Our focus on impossibility

And all the reasons it won’t work! Why are so many people focused on impossibility? Why things won’t work. We talk about these amazing ideas and dreams then counter it with a myriad of reasons why it won’t work, why we shouldn’t do it and why we should just be grateful for what we have. It’s one of the many …

Making sense of change

If it aint broke, don’t fix it! As a natural default most of us opt for doing what’s easiest right now (also known as taking the path of least resistance) rather than doing what’s best long term. We prefer to do things the way they’ve always been done…so we’re not having to switch our brains on. And why not! If …

Taming the distraction llama

To get things done! How many times a day do you find yourself being distracted from what you’re doing? I was distracted twice just typing this first sentence. In his book, Hyperfocus, Chris Bailey talks about how long we can maintain focus when sitting in front of a computer – just 40 seconds. Doesn’t sound right does it! But when …

Surround yourself with people who inspire and elevate

And limit time with those who don’t! … I’m sure you’re familiar with the saying that “you are the sum average of the five closest people you spend your time with”. So how much thought have you given to the people you’re spending your time with? As an exercise, write down a list of people you’ve spent over two hours …

Treat others the way THEY want to be treated…

Not how you want to be treated! As a kid I remember being told to “treat others the way you want to be treated”. I would hear “Shelley, you wouldn’t like it if someone did that to you so don’t do it to them ok”. Sure, that’s great advice, in the context of the playground…but as adults I’ve become really …

Happiness is part of the journey

It’s not the destination! When you’re having one on one conversations with your staff and talking about their goals for the future, do you sometimes hear them say things like “I want to be happy” – like it’s some amazing destination that isn’t accessible all the time? If so, how do you respond? Do you delve into a discussion about …

We’re not perfect, just human!

Oh the lessons Today is Riley’s 7th birthday. He’s our middle child and he’s been counting down the days to his birthday for at least two months. Birthday’s for kids come with so much excitement and joy and I love watching them celebrate each year. But this year, sadly, I’m in Sydney, 685km’s away for work. And while it helps …