Treat others the way THEY want to be treated…

Not how you want to be treated! As a kid I remember being told to “treat others the way you want to be treated”. I would hear “Shelley, you wouldn’t like it if someone did that to you so don’t do it to them ok”. Sure, that’s great advice, in the context of the playground…but as adults I’ve become really …

Happiness is part of the journey

It’s not the destination! When you’re having one on one conversations with your staff and talking about their goals for the future, do you sometimes hear them say things like “I want to be happy” – like it’s some amazing destination that isn’t accessible all the time? If so, how do you respond? Do you delve into a discussion about …

We’re not perfect, just human!

Oh the lessons Today is Riley’s 7th birthday. He’s our middle child and he’s been counting down the days to his birthday for at least two months. Birthday’s for kids come with so much excitement and joy and I love watching them celebrate each year. But this year, sadly, I’m in Sydney, 685km’s away for work. And while it helps …

Make small talk meaningful!

Be consistent & do it often In my last written blog I talked about how I came to like people and I feel like this is a natural follow on from that. Leaders who are task focused often see small talk as annoying and a waste of time. And it is, if you’re looking for instant results. The benefits of …

How I came to like people!

By focusing on what I can control and becoming curious about others As the second of four children I didn’t have much space or ‘me-time’ when I was growing up. For most of my childhood I shared a bedroom with one of my three siblings and the arguments and disagreements were endless. We would fight (sometimes physically) over space, we …

The fluff that matters!

Building relationships, running staff engagement and team culture activities and even development conversations are often referred to as fluff! In 2018? Really, that can’t be! Yep it actually is. I’ve heard it used by several leaders over the past few months. Leaders who were in different states, different organisations and different industries…so yep, it’s still happening. If I’d just heard …

You are capable of so much more!

Over the weekend I became a Master NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, which is a huge accomplishment and something I’m so very proud of. Over six months the program forced me to  challenge myself in new ways and do things I wouldn’t ordinarily do or didn’t think I was capable of. One of the biggest mental challenges was believing I could …

Sound advice for new leaders

Reflections from Mali … Coaching people to be better leaders gives me such a buzz. Seeing them transform in their thinking and their approach is so rewarding and I love how life changing it can be. I was chatting with one of my clients, Malith Amarasekera, recently and I had a ‘proud’ moment. We reflected on where he was when …

Operating rhythm

The silver bullet for business success Ok, so I have this love/hate relationship with routine. For years I’ve been bouncing between having a routine and being spontaneous. I discover a way to do a task efficiently and follow the process for a couple of months before getting irritated by the lack of variety and changing it up, delaying it, or, …

Leader engagement

Hear how Spiz engages his people! … Often the engagement of leaders is overlooked. We assume that because they’re in a leadership position they should be able to look after themselves. And while it is important for leaders to own and direct their own development it is still the responsibility of their managers to ensure they remain engaged. And if …