And limit time with those who don’t!
I’m sure you’re familiar with the saying that “you are the sum average of the five closest people you spend your time with”. So how much thought have you given to the people you’re spending your time with?
As an exercise, write down a list of people you’ve spent over two hours with in the past week and consider…Are these people inspiring me to be my best? Or, are they worried, jealous or scared of who I’m becoming and trying to hold me back? Do they listen without interrupting or do they hijack my conversation with their own stories? How do I feel afterwards, drained or refreshed?
You may not think it’s a big deal but it’s almost impossible not to be influenced by the people you spend a lot of time with. And if you’re being influenced in a negative way then it might be time to make a change.
In Australia, along with a variety of other western countries, we have this complex called “the tall poppy syndrome” where people that stand out are seen as a problem and need to be “cut down to size”. We appear happy to watch others succeed, but not too much. We support our friends to be whoever they want to be, as long as it’s not too different from how they are right now! When we see our friends and family outgrowing us, we will do some pretty extreme things to pull them back…For many people this isn’t an issue but for those of you who are feeling frustrated in your career this may amplify those emotions.
What’s great is that there are so many inspiring people who are breaking the mould of sameness and doing some awesome things. One of those people is Emma Isaacs, Global CEO of Business Chicks. I absolutely love what Emma and her team are achieving for leaders and business owners across the world. I have been attending Business Chicks events since 2011 and have never been disappointed with their ability to inspire me and elevate my thinking. I have seen speakers like Dr Brene Brown, Todd Sampson, Matt Church, Quentin Bryceand many more and all have forced me to consider what success looks like for me…and…whether I’m doing what lights me up.
So, tonight I fly to Fiji where I will spend the next four days with amazing leaders and business owners at the Business Chicks annual Movers and Breakers conference in Momi Bay. I am so excited to meet new people, hear personal stories and return next week with a renewed focus and a variety of different perspectives.
As a leader and business owner I am very careful about the people I surround myself with and am always looking for those who elevate my thinking and challenge me to stop overthinking and just do it. I encourage you to do the same!
Tiko Totoka (Stay beautiful)!
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Shelley Flett is a passionate leader with a keen focus on creating efficient and sustainable team environments through adaptable leadership. She is a Leadership Coach, Trainer, Facilitator, Mentor and Speaker who ignites vision and purpose in those she works with.
If you’d like to know more about her latest programs please drop her an email firstname.lastname@example.org.